Your wedding is coming up and you’ve decided to skip out on hiring a wedding events planner. Instead, you and your significant other are riding solo. You’re both organized and feel ready for the job.
Still, planning a wedding isn’t the same as planning for a presentation or leading a project. While planning ahead definitely has its pros, you may not know what exactly you need to plan for. That said, read on to learn 5 tips you need to consider when planning your wedding.
1. Focus on Your Guests
It isn’t just about the guest count. You know how many people you’re inviting to your wedding but do you know how much space you’ll need?
According to The Knot, a good rule of thumb is for every guest you invite, allow 25 to 30 square feet of space. That way, you ensure that you’ll have enough space for not only your guests to walk around but to make room for the tables, chairs, waiters, dance floor, and band as well.
In other words, your wedding venue depends on your guest count more or less. So, the sooner you finalize the guest count, the sooner you can find a venue that best accommodates them.
This is why it’s important that you send out your wedding invitations as soon as possible. We are talking 3-4 months before the big date—at the very least. Guests then have time to save the day and arrange their schedules. Plus, you won’t feel stressed tracking the RSVPs.
2. Create a Customized Wedding Registry
Nowadays, wedding registries isn’t just enrolling with one store. In fact, your Blueprint Registry can include several stores. Or, why not decide on having a first home savings fund instead?
Instead of buying you and your significant other bedding or cutlery, friends and family can pitch in and help you save up for your first home as a couple? Or why not both?
What we are trying to say is that you have several options at your fingertips. You get to choose how to mix and match.
3. Streamline the Wedding Planning with Google Docs
It is hard enough trying to secure a good venue, let alone lining up the catering, flowers, and music. You have papers and spreadsheets sprawled out everywhere on your kitchen table. Just the clutter alone is enough to cause you a headache. How do you get your planning under control?
Simple. According to Jezebel, you can consolidate your binders, notebooks, and loose leaf paper into a couple Google Docs. If your grandmother is a part of the planning team and may not be familiar with this, Jezebel recommends using the PDF export function!
With Google Docs, you get to control who you want to share your wedding planning with. That way, your wedding planning team can chime in with advice (if you want them to) without overflowing your inbox.
4. Talk to the Event Coordinator About a Potential Plan B
Normally, restaurants that host weddings has an event coordinator who makes sure the event goes smoothly. If you decide to go this route, be sure to have a conversation with the event coordinator on a backup venue should something—such as rain or the air conditioner breaking down—happens.
Speaking of Plan Bs, you may want also want to allocate a portion of your wedding budget to miscellaneous or “Plan B.”
That way, if it is forecasted to rain on your wedding day, you have the funds available to buy a large awning or buy pizzas if the caterer all of a sudden can’t make it.
5. Delegate, Delegate, Delegate
Let’s face it; planning for a wedding is a huge job. Make it easier on yourself by enlisting the help of family and friends. Perhaps you have a friend who is great at making DIY projects? Or your soon-to-be mother-in-law has contacts in the flower industry?
You may be surprised at how eager your family and friends are to help you. They want you and your significant other to have a beautiful and memorable wedding. Allow them to help you—this means handing over the baton and delegating.
Play to Their Strengths, Not Their Weaknesses
According to Inc., this means playing to everyone’s strengths. So, give your creative friend the job of making the centerpieces, not your extremely analytical friend.
Perhaps your analytical friend can be assigned to sync up arrival and setup times for the vendors?
Don’t Micromanage but a Friendly Follow-Up Is Fine
While we know this is your special day and you want it to go perfectly, try not to micromanage. It can be hard to pass off tasks to your friends and family. Our hats go off to you. Trust that they will meet your needs.
At the same time, a friendly follow-up text or email certainly doesn’t hurt.
Bonus: Create a Checklist
Start your wedding planning with a checklist. You can always add and subtract tasks throughout the wedding planning process.
And, make sure you write everything down. This includes adding “pick up dance shoes” or “check in with caterer” to your list.
By getting everything on paper, you make the intangible tangible and can see what you have left to do.
Planning a wedding does not have to be a stress sentence. Using these 5 tips (and then some) will alleviate your jitters and could even make the process fun. What other tips do you recommend? Be sure to leave a comment below.
It is very common nowadays for the ushers or the best man to give the groom a gift on the morning of his wedding day, but what is less common is the bride giving a gift too.
Although it may seem a little redundant, a small token of love can be a really sweet gesture and your groom will be left with something he can cherish forever that reminds him of your special day.
We’ve compiled a list of some lovely gift ideas to hopefully give you a little inspiration!
Buying your groom his favorite cologne or aftershave is a simple gift as you know he will love and appreciate it.
Another great idea is to find a new scent that you think he’ll like and ask him to wear it throughout the ceremony and reception. Doing this means that this scent will always remind the both of you of your wedding day every time you smell it and will take you right back to the moment.
2. Engraved items
An engraved item like cufflinks, a pocket watch or a hip flask is another lovely way to create a lasting memento of the happiest day of your lives.
Another option, similar to engraving, is stitching. You could get him a new tie and get a stitched personal message on the back of it, or even a pair of personalized socks! The options here are endless and you could even stitch it yourself if you have the capability!
Personalized or handmade gifts require a little more effort but they are great as they are unique and have come from the heart.
You could create a scrapbook filled with memories of your time together, a collage compiled of your favorite photos of the two of you, or even something old school like a mixtape (or a Spotify playlist!) of songs that mean something to the both of you.
You can look back and listen to these on the evening of your wedding whilst you reflect on what a great day you’ve had together.
3. Honeymoon items
Most newlyweds choose to jet off on their honeymoon right after the wedding so buying him something special to use on the honeymoon like a nice pair of swimming trunks, a wash bag or some sunglasses is a great and practical idea.
If you want to spend a little more on your gift then a piece of jewelry, a nice watch or other accessories for men are fail-safe options.
If you get something wedding-appropriate like a tie clip or earrings for men, then they could also be worn on your wedding day, which your groom would definitely appreciate as it makes his life easier!
Most men would be happy with a bottle of really good whiskey, or another kind of alcohol that he loves. It could also be used to calm his or the groomsmen’s nerves before the ceremony and used at the celebrations later!
Pick an alcohol with a nice bottle as it could be something you keep on a shelf in your kitchen or house to also serve as a memento of hazy memories of your reception.
You would assume being a good bridesmaid should be easy, right? You've been friends for a while and you know your friend pretty well. But you'd be surprised how many ladies in the bridal party often miss the mark (and then some). Many bridesmaids end up making their friend's wedding about themselves or just don't know how to support the bride the ways she needs.
Here we will go through a few tips on how to be a "good" bridesmaid.
Expect to Spend Money
Being a bridesmaid costs a considerable amount of money. As a bridesmaid you are responsible to pay for your apparel, travel and hotel room for the ceremony, hosting a bachelorette party, hosting a wedding shower, as well as a shower gift and a wedding gift. There are many options on things to do to save money but your best bet is to talk to the bride about your financial situation upfront and set a limit on what you can spend. Also, a bride may sometimes pay for some of the expenses a bridesmaid incurs if her budget allows it.
Listen to the Bride
This sounds simple right? However, I am not talking about just doing what she says. I am referring to really listening to how she's feeling, what is troubling her and any other things she has to say. A wedding is a very stressful time for most brides and having someone there to listen and ask her how she is doing means a lot to a bride and a friend. Doing this one thing will make sure you are well on your way to being a "good" bridesmaid
Expect to be Told, Not Asked
By accepting to be a bridesmaid, you have essentially given up your choice of attire, dance partner (at least for one dance), and many other aspects on the day of the wedding and all wedding related events. Accept this early on as it doesn't get any easier later.
Although many brides ask their bridesmaids opinions on dresses, decorations and other things, the bride will have the final say on what you are wearing and doing on that day. If she asks for your opinion on a dress, find out her opinion first. If it doesn't flatter you, suggest another dress but be prepared for the bride to say no. Not everyone is going to have the same body type and its inevitable that it won't look as good on one person as it does on another. Remember, this day is about the bride, your friend or family member and not yourself.
Keep it Together at the Wedding and other Wedding Events
The bachelorette party is your opportunity to have the time of your lives together. Drink, dance and celebrate the bride however know when to cut yourself off.
At the wedding social, you have responsibilities to do and handling money so getting tanked is not a good idea. No one wants to babysit the sloppy drunk girl at the end of the night, especially not the bride!
Help the Maid of Honor with Planning
Planning the bachelorette party and the Wedding shower falls on the responsibility of the bridesmaids.
You are paying for the wedding shower and paying for the bachelorette party. If you are not involved in the planning of it, at the end of the event you may be asked to pay way out of your price range for these events. Make sure you state what you want to spend at the start of planning the events so that all the wedding party is on the same page.
Respond to the Maid of Honour's questions even if you don't have an answer yet. A simple, I will check when I get home, goes a long way instead of a question being ignored. Remember, if you don't reply, they will plan it their way and you will be left with the bill.
Bite Your Tongue
Everyone has heard the saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." During the wedding planning, it is not the time to trash talk another bridesmaid, the groom, friends or family.
This is also important when the bridal party goes out for the brides wedding dress. If the bride is in awe and amazement of a dress, keep your critical comments to yourself. A bride is constantly second guessing her decisions and the wrong comment can spiral into an emotional breaking point.
Help out at the Wedding
Being a bridesmaid may be an honour but you also have some responsibilities as well. If there is something the bride needs, help her get it taken care of. Take lots of photos from the early planning stages and also during the wedding and give them to the bride when its done and she will be very thankful for them.
Be Reliable and Attend All Events
Let's face it, sometimes you can't make an event because of an emergency. However, a good bridesmaid will make all attempts to be a help rather than a hindrance. This means being where she is supposed to be and being there on time. If you have something you have booked every Thursday night that cannot be changed, make it known to the bride early on so she can schedule around it. As a bridesmaid you must attend the bachelorette party, the wedding shower, the dress fittings, the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner and any other event the bride needs you to attend.
Thank you for reading! If there is any other points you believe we missed, please leave a comment below for other bridesmaids
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Top event designers (with a combined 121 years working in weddings) reveal the blunders, pitfalls, and missteps many couples make during the planning process. Read about them now—accompanied by photos of real weddings that got it right—so you can avoid them later!
MISTAKE 1: MAKING PLANS BEFORE SETTING BUDGET
Picking a dress or wedding venue prior to establishing financial parameters is a lot like shopping without glancing at price tags and then strolling up to check out with your fingers crossed. You risk falling for a gown or location that breaks your heart when you realize that to afford it, you’d have to cut your guest list in half—or cancel the honeymoon. “The three initial hurdles are budget, guest list, and venue, and they should be tackled in that order,” says planner Lynn Easton of Easton Events in South Carolina and Virginia. “Your budget defines your options and drives your decisions.” While drawing one up, “include charges for overtime, gratuities, and car services from the start,” advises New York City planner Marcy Blum. “By doing so, you avoid throwing money at things you weren’t prepared for.”
MISTAKE 2: NOT HAVING A RAIN PLAN
If yours is an outdoor event, rain on your wedding day isn’t just ironic, it’s a game-changer. Too many people are tempted to just hope it won’t happen, which is the planning equivalent of sticking your fingers in your ears and yelling, “I can’t hear you, Rain!” Bicoastal planner Lyndsey Hamilton of Lyndsey Hamilton Eventssays, “People don’t want to put the deposits down for tents, umbrellas, and golf carts they might not need—you pay 50 percent and lose it if you don’t use them. But if you don’t book them early on and are marrying during peak wedding season, tents might not be available when the weather starts to look iffy.” Meet with the tent company six to nine months ahead and think of the deposits as an investment in your peace of mind. “We believe that if you have a good Plan B, it won’t rain, but if you haven’t considered ‘what if,’ it will undoubtedly pour,” says contributing editor David Stark of David Stark Design and Production in New York City.
MISTAKE 3: UNDERESTIMATING THE COST
Just because the setting may be breezy doesn’t mean the planning is going to be easy. “With alfresco affairs, people think we’re just putting a tent in a field, and it’s going to be beautiful,” says Hamilton. “They don’t realize all the logistics necessary for a tented event to go off without a hitch.” Bear in mind you’ll need to rent bathrooms, kitchen facilities, lighting, fans or heaters, and generators.
MISTAKE 4: PLANNING A TOO-LONG PARTY
It’s the event of your lifetime, but it shouldn’t feel like it lasted a lifetime. “It’s tempting to get so excited that you map out a marathon celebration, with pre-vow drinks, a lengthy ceremony, another cocktail hour, a multi-course dinner, three hours of dancing, an after-party, and more,” says planner Calder Clark, owner of Calder Clark in Charleston, South Carolina. “But industry insiders agree that a five-hour reception is the tip-top of what people can enjoy and still exit laughing. The evening should have a natural end.” It should also have a comfortable beginning: Be sure to supply chairs so attendees can sit for the vows (a five-minute ceremony becomes a painful 20-minute wait if you run
MISTAKE 5: PACKING THEM IN
You want your wedding to feel chic and elegant, not “crowded elevator.” “Being cramped makes meal service and dancing difficult, and it really inhibits the guest experience,” says Hamilton. Ask your venue how many attendees can comfortably fit, then reduce that by 10 percent, she suggests: “You don’t want to get to the max of what your site can accommodate.”
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